When my grandson was born, I thought it was the greatest
thing, and it probably is. However, he is 8 and his parents told
him it is OK to call me by my first name. I do not agree. He has,
but for a few times, not called me Grandma. Also, they combined
their two last names, my son and daughter-in-law, not hyphenated,
as his last name.
I am a very warm person but so hurt that I
have lost my closeness to my grandson. It is very hard, and I feel
myself distancing my feelings toward him. My son does not feel
their way is wrong. What is in a name or a title that makes it so
– A Lost
To be sure I'm reading you correctly: You feel distant from your
grandson because of these two naming issues, and not because anyone
prevents you from seeing this child?
Carolyn: He comes to my home usually on the weekends to
visit and spend some time with me. I feel so distant and hurt
because of the last-name issue and because he calls me by my first
– Lost Grandma again
It's as if someone journeyed barefoot from the corners of the
earth to deliver you a sapphire, and you're (peeved) it's not a
ruby. If I agree to call you Grandma, will you stop being so
blockheaded about one of the most precious things life has to
offer? That might be the best deal I have for you, because...