Carolyn Hax

Name game: Call me "Grandma" or else
Published on Sep 19th, 2013
5 comments Dear Carolyn: When my grandson was born, I thought it was the greatest thing, and it probably is. However, he is 8 and his parents told him it is OK to call me by my first name. I do not agree. He...
Nasty in-law: Stick up for your mom
Published on Sep 12th, 2013
8 comments Dear Carolyn: At family gatherings, my brother's wife puts my brother down with negative comments, says indirect, hurtful comments to her son's girlfriend, and is, in general, denigrating to other...
Share the wealth: Even temporary grandkids need love
Published on Sep 5th, 2013
1 comments Hi, Carolyn!       Over the years, I've read numerous complaints about grandparents who showed favoritism to some grandkids based on gender, adoption or step situations. Each time, I'...
Bugging out: Holiday stay sparks tension
Published on Aug 29th, 2013
6 comments Dear Carolyn:      Both of our sons came home for Thanksgiving. We put up our older son and his family in a hotel and had our younger son, his new (second) wife and their...
Past misdeeds: Can boyfriend's mom make it up?
Published on Aug 22nd, 2013
1 comments Dear Carolyn:      From what my daughter's boyfriend has told me of his childhood, his mom sounds cold, unloving, even borderline abusive. He's quick to reassure me that she...
Past misdeeds: Can boyfriend's mom make it up?
Published on Aug 22nd, 2013
1 comments Dear Carolyn:      From what my daughter's boyfriend has told me of his childhood, his mom sounds cold, unloving, even borderline abusive. He's quick to reassure me that she...
Mom's the word: Sons need to make their own choices
Published on Aug 15th, 2013
0 comments Dear Carolyn:      My 18-year-old son recently began his first relationship with a 20-year-old girl. They've been attending community college together and started as friends...
Beck and call: It's time for friendship boundaries
Published on Aug 8th, 2013
2 comments Dear Carolyn:      I have a friend who has a meltdown about twice or three times a week. I've become her go-to person because we are in the same profession. I've reviewed...
Beck and call: It's time for friendship boundaries
Published on Aug 8th, 2013
2 comments Dear Carolyn:      I have a friend who has a meltdown about twice or three times a week. I've become her go-to person because we are in the same profession. I've reviewed...
Relationship regret: Did moving away kill chance at love?
Published on Jul 25th, 2013
0 comments Hi, Carolyn:      I moved cross-country almost a year ago to be part of my kids' lives. I'm divorced, and my ex, who will be working abroad next year, has custody. ...
That smarts: Siblings get low grade on getting along
Published on Jul 18th, 2013
0 comments Dear Carolyn:      I have always been the smart one. The sister was an average student, and I have always excelled in all areas of academia. This sounds conceited, I know,...
That smarts: Siblings get low grade on getting along
Published on Jul 18th, 2013
0 comments Dear Carolyn:      I have always been the smart one. The sister was an average student, and I have always excelled in all areas of academia. This sounds conceited, I know,...
Walk of blame: Unhappy wife wants hubby to bow out
Published on Jul 11th, 2013
1 comments Dear Carolyn:      My husband has been friends since college with a woman who ended up marrying one of his fraternity brothers. Her husband is an alcoholic who will not go...
Walk of blame: Unhappy wife wants hubby to bow out
Published on Jul 11th, 2013
1 comments Dear Carolyn:      My husband has been friends since college with a woman who ended up marrying one of his fraternity brothers. Her husband is an alcoholic who will not go...
Thanks but no thanks? Gift giver ponders modern etiquette
Published on Jul 4th, 2013
10 comments Dear Carolyn:I am confused over gift-giving etiquette with the current generation. I have always been prompt in sending gifts, money, cards to my relatives for birthdays, holidays, weddings, births,...
Thanks but no thanks? Gift giver ponders modern etiquette
Published on Jul 4th, 2013
10 comments Dear Carolyn:I am confused over gift-giving etiquette with the current generation. I have always been prompt in sending gifts, money, cards to my relatives for birthdays, holidays, weddings, births,...
Pushy pop: Help dealing with 'daddy dearest'
Published on Jun 27th, 2013
6 comments Dear Carolyn:      I am a 19-year-old college student who is home for the summer. At my father's insistence, I found a menial summer job at a fast-food joint. I had been...
Pushy pop: Help dealing with 'daddy dearest'
Published on Jun 27th, 2013
6 comments Dear Carolyn:      I am a 19-year-old college student who is home for the summer. At my father's insistence, I found a menial summer job at a fast-food joint. I had been...
Wedding blues: Should toxic mom be invited?
Published on Jun 20th, 2013
3 comments Hi, Carolyn:      Our 24-year-old daughter, "Mary," is getting married this August. My mother is 84, a hard-core feminist and atheist. She views religion as an oppressor of...
Fit to fight: Dad and daughter driving mom mad
Published on Jun 13th, 2013
1 comments Hi, Carolyn:      How do you tell someone you love that you think they might have a psychiatric issue that needs to be addressed, i.e., crippling anxiety?   ...
Fit to fight: Dad and daughter driving mom mad
Published on Jun 13th, 2013
1 comments Hi, Carolyn:      How do you tell someone you love that you think they might have a psychiatric issue that needs to be addressed, i.e., crippling anxiety?   ...
Stuck in the middle: Sibling dispute is tearing us apart
Published on May 30th, 2013
0 comments Dear Carolyn:      I have an older sister, "Mary," and younger, "Tracy," who simply do not get along. Mary hasn't done anything specific like bullying, but I've never seen...
Stuck in the middle: Sibling dispute is tearing us apart
Published on May 30th, 2013
0 comments Dear Carolyn:      I have an older sister, "Mary," and younger, "Tracy," who simply do not get along. Mary hasn't done anything specific like bullying, but I've never seen...
Tiny bullies
Published on May 23rd, 2013
1 comments Carolyn:       I'm having trouble dealing with my violent niece and nephew, 5 and 7. I have two children of my own a little older. We are a tight family that (mostly,...
Tiny bullies
Published on May 23rd, 2013
1 comments Carolyn:       I'm having trouble dealing with my violent niece and nephew, 5 and 7. I have two children of my own a little older. We are a tight family that (mostly,...
Cheat street: Can trust be regained after repeat infidelity?
Published on May 16th, 2013
2 comments Hi, Carolyn: How do I start trusting my wife again? Three years ago, I caught her (52) having an affair with a 29-year-old aide who came to our house to help with our autistic son.   ...
Reality bites: How do you change everything?
Published on May 9th, 2013
0 comments Dear Carolyn:       Sometimes I think I'd like someone to rescue me from my life– someone to make it so I don't have to work anymore, and I just sit back and not...
Reality bites: How do you change everything?
Published on May 9th, 2013
0 comments Dear Carolyn:       Sometimes I think I'd like someone to rescue me from my life– someone to make it so I don't have to work anymore, and I just sit back and not...
Wife Strife: I do, or un-do?
Published on May 2nd, 2013
3 comments Dear Carolyn:     Our daughter, 27 and married for just over two years, is feeling she "is living the wrong life, like, I'm not in the right place." We are very fond of our son-in...
MIL's a martyr-- and hubby is, too
Published on Apr 25th, 2013
0 comments Hi, Carolyn:     My husband's 49-year-old brother has advanced cirrhosis. The prognosis sounds pretty grim. My mother-in-law, who is taking care of him and trying to make his...