'Elegant lady': LeRoi Moore's brothers say goodbye to their mother

news-roxiemooreRoxie Holloway Moore, mother of three boys including late DMB sax player LeRoi Moore, died Thursday, April 8.

For the family of late Dave Matthews Band saxophonist LeRoi Moore, Thursday, April 8, was a day of remembering–- and of additional loss.

As friends and family gathered at the nonprofit Music Resource Center to celebrate LeRoi's life and talent with a dedication of the performance hall, one important person was missing from the event: his 80-year-old mother, Roxie Holloway Moore, who suffered a massive heart attack two days earlier and died the night of the dedication.

"She was a special lady," says the youngest Moore son, 46-year-old Jeffrey, a consultant in Atlanta. Reached at his mother's Albemarle County home on Monday, April 12, Jeffrey recalled her as an "elegant lady" known for her compassion.

"She had such a charitable nature," he says, "but mostly just a really keen wit. She could have you on the floor with some of the things she would say."

The Moore family, Roxie and "A.P."–- college sweethearts from North Carolina Central University in Durham, North Carolina–- and their three young sons moved to Charlottesville in 1963 when A.P. took a job teaching and coaching at Burley High School–- now Burley Middle School–- on Rose Hill Drive.

The family eventually moved to Ivy, and the boys attended both Albemarle and Western Albemarle high schools, while A.P. moved over to Albemarle High school where he worked until the end of his life. (He died in 1986, and Burley Middle School is dedicating the basketball court to him on April 30, says Jeffrey.)

Roxie worked as a civilian for the Army, first for the JAG school, then for the Army's Foreign Science and Technology Center, a precurser of the National Ground Intelligence Center–- all while mothering three boys,  LeRoi, Rodney, and Jeffrey, spaced 13 months apart.

"We were all rambunctious," recalls Jeffrey, sympathizing with his mother's plight. "You just think, 'How in the world are you still sane?'" In fact, he says, she led by example and with strong communication. "She wasn't strict," he says. "She believed in talking to you and letting you know what the rules are. She always thought it was horrible for parents to yell at their children."

LeRoi's August, 2008 death following an ATV accident on his Albemarle County farm at age 46 was a terrible blow to the family, but Jeffrey says his mother was looking forward to attending the Music Resource Center dedication with her youngest son.  The last thing she told a caretaker was, "My baby's coming to take me on a trip," he recalls.

Instead, Jeffrey says, he and Rodney attended LeRoi's dedication without her, then continued on to the hospital where she had been kept on life support for two days.

"We got through the dedication," he says, "and then we said goodbye to her."

A member at Trinity Episcopal Church for 47 years, Roxie Moore had "tremendous faith," Jeffrey says, that helps soften the loss.

"I'll never worry about her," he says. "I'll just miss her."

A funeral service for Roxie Holloway Moore will be held Friday, April 16 at noon at Trinity Episcopal Church on Preston Avenue.
–Correction: The original version of this story misstated the name of the middle of Roxie Moore's three sons. He is Rodney Moore.

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What a beautiful article for the person you call " Mother " Please keep in mind that death is a part of life. With God's help you will get through these difficult times. Peace and Blessing to you and your family.

I met her once while I was over Lerois' house, and she was very warm and inviting person. She also gave me a huge compliment after having a nice chat. I will cherish that moment always. Leroi was a really good guy who had a big heart, and by meetings his mother i can see where he got it from. Mat she travel safely to the otherside.

Hoping that mom is now with her wonderful son.

Jeffrey. what a fitting tribute to your mother, and she sounds like an elegant and extraordinary lady. I am so sorry for your loss, both of them. Because I know that losing Mom just brings back the sadness and loss of Leroi. All i can say is that Leroi, Roxy and your ad are all up there in heaven watching over you and Ray.

Mrs. Roxy was such a classy lady and I feel honored to have known her. We will miss her greatly.

What an elegant & strong lady! This is a beautiful tribute to your mother. I feel blessed to have met her. May god show flavor to your family.

I worked with Roxie over 30 years ago at the Army's Foreign Science & Technology Center . I remember her as a kind, wonderful and beautiful person. May God Bless you all.

Brian:thanks for mentioning "Coach" Moore.I don't know the family & had not made that connection.He taught me driver's ed at AHS as well & was all that you said:decent,witty,sarcastic & tough.I'll always remember him.What a remarkable family.I remember I wanted to learn to drive a stick shift but they let the boys have first dibs at the manuals so I had to drive an automatic.LOL!!

Aside from the DMB angle this family was known in the community due to Mr. Moore being our basketball coach and drivers ed teacher at Albemarle. Mr. Moore was witty, sarcastic, and tough. Overall a decent person and his wife was a big supporter of the basketball teams he worked with as the head coach. This does not seem to be noted in the article.

I'm very glad that someone corrected Rodney's name. Seems like a small mistake to some, but to those that know and love Rodney it made a "world" of difference. He was and always be a very loving son.

GOD rest their souls and wrap his loving arms around Leroy,Roxie, and the family. May the peace of Christ be with you at your time of loss. No worries, they are in good hands.

I never had the pleasure of meeting your mom, but I did have the pleasure of meeting you on two different occasions. Your mother did a wonderful job of raising you. You have my sympathies and respects.
~S. Whatley

did mr moore also teach phys ed and coach at scottsville jr high at one time?

Jeff, this article has put a warm smile on my face. Those of us who never met your mom clearly missed a wonderful experience! I can see her character reflected in the lives of her children. I believe she has to be smiling too! I pray that you and Ray be comforted with Roxie and LeRoi watching over you.

Jeff, what a touching article and a lovely depiction of what I know was a truly "Elegant Lady!" Thanks for sharing this with the folks who care about you and your family. Although, we did not have the pleasure to meet in person this "Stellar Woman" you called mom...I know Heaven is rejoicing that another one of its "Earthly Angels" has answered GOD's Call to come home. GOD's Speed Jeff to you and Raymond during this Celebration of Mrs. Roxie Moore's life and know that you are always in our thoughts and prayers!

-The Moses'

Jeff, I am praying for your family. Although I never met your mother, I know you were a great son to her and from our conversations, I know she meant the world to you. You can have peace knowing that you did all you could for her while she lived. She can rest knowing that she taught you well and you will continue to live a full and productive life. Please know I am here for you when you return home.