R-E-S-P-E-C-T, Find out what it means to me
Girlfriend, we need to talk. These guys in your life– they’re no good for you. It’s time to cut them loose. Remember what Maya Angelou said about people like this? “When a man tells you who he is, believe him.”
If he wants to put up obstacles between you and your birth control method, or if he says you were not legitimately raped because you ended up pregnant after the assault, then ask yourself: Is this the man for me?
Okay, I get it. You go along with this stuff because he says he’s real religious. That he doesn’t believe in birth control. Fine for him and his life. But what about your life? What does this say about his plans for you?
If barefoot and pregnant isn’t the future you had planned for yourself, it’s time to set yourself free.
I know, he apologized for the “legitimate rape” comment, but don’t they always apologize after they insult you or knock you around? “I’m sorry, baby! I didn’t mean it.” And then come the flowers. But it’s too late. He has already told you– shown you– who he is. Are you paying attention?
Our own Governor McDonnell has shown us who he is as chairman of the GOP platform committee. The platform plank about abortion, which– hello!– is the same as it has been since 1984, makes no exception for women and girls who have been raped or suffered incest.
Congressman Todd Akin’s medieval misconception that rape cannot result in pregnancy was, of course, ludicrous. And his candy-and-flowers apology is meaningless. But do you think he’s the only one of these guys who holds that opinion?
Think again. There was loud criticism of Akin by his fellow Republicans, but did they rush to change the GOP platform to allow abortion for victims of rape? Hell, no.
And then there’s George Allen, who’s been sniffing around, hoping to come back into your life and be your senator again. Don’t you let him.
Back in 2003, Allen voted to confirm James Leon Holmes to a federal judgeship. I know what you’re thinking: So what?
Here’s what: Before he was up for this life-long appointment as a federal judge, Holmes had this to say about the need for a rape exception in the restriction of abortion: “Conceptions from rape occur with approximately the same frequency as snowfall in Miami."
Ha, ha. Humor, at whose expense? Of course, when this moment of candor came to light during the confirmation process, it was all “Oh, baby, I’m so sorry” time.
And while we’re on the subject of creepiness in the guys you’ve been putting up with, may I remind you of that jaw-dropping, hands-on-hips, oh-no-he-di’n’t! moment from George Allen’s campaign the last time he was sweet-talking you into keeping his senator shoes under your bed?
When a young Indian-American man named S.R. Sidarth, a Virginia native, was filming a George Allen campaign appearance in 2006, here’s what Allen had to say to him, “This fella over here in the yellow shirt, Macaca or whatever his name is, he’s with my opponent. […] Let’s give a welcome to Macaca here. Welcome to America and the real world of Virginia.”
Allen’s mother grew up in Tunisia, where “macaca,” which means “monkey,” has been used as a racial slur. Kind of like the n-word in English.
If you were looking for confirmation of George Allen’s reputation as a bully, this was it.
Ah, but you had the good sense to show him the door last time!
Before you go pushing buttons and pulling levers behind the curtain on November 6th, think about what’s best for you. Think about keeping the freedom to direct your own life, about keeping the bullies and control freaks out of your business.
Stay strong, sistah!
It doesn't sound like Free Union resident Janis Jaquith will be pulling many R-levers in the voting booth this fall.